It's been an interesting month. Time has gone by incredibly fast and at the same time, heart-achingly slow, as it tends to do when you're waiting for something you really want. Right now, for me, it's the finalization of my divorce and everything that entails.
I won't lie, I'm lucky that my divorce has gone smoothly. It hasn't been ugly or tense, in fact, it's been a very peaceful and mutual effort from the beginning. I hope it continues that way long after the divorce has been made final, which could possibly (hopefully) be as soon as mid-February. Which would be fantastic, because I filed in November.
You see, in Utah, there is a 90-day waiting period after you initially file for your divorce. During this period of time there isn't really a lot to be done aside from making sure the rest of the documents needed are all in order. (So long as everything is done in a peaceful, mutual way, like mine has been). Other than that, all you do is wait...
....and wait....
...............and wait....
Hence it being called a "waiting period"
I'm unclear as to all the reasons for this requirement, though I assume it has to do with making sure the couple actually wants to be divorced. It is a requirement for all married couples in Utah though, (no matter how long they've been separated) so I don't believe that is the only reason for it.
Now, my 90-day waiting period is almost at an end, which means I can file my remaining documents within the next week or so. This makes me incredibly happy, excited and nervous. I'm ready for it to be finished.
Don't get me wrong, I understand that just because I'll be divorced doesn't mean that everything will change or be over, because of my son my ex will still be a part of my life and probably always will be to some extent. I don't have a problem with that.
I'm just ready to have this done with, the paperwork and documents, all of it. The filing and waiting. I'm ready for the final stages. I'm ready to actually be divorced.
I'm more than ready for that.
I'm ready for this chapter to end so the next can begin. There are quite a few big potential changes coming up in the next few months. I'm ready to live life again.
My waiting is almost over.
The finish line is just around the bend.
